<p>Many adoptive, foster, stepmoms, and grandmothers are suffering in silence. No one in the world of adoption is giving them the tools for recovery. No one is teaching them how to handle adoptee pushback and rejection. No one is wrapping arms around them and praying when all they can do is cry.</p><p><br></p><p><b>When moms realize the unknown depth of their child’s trauma, a common reaction is self-doubt. If she doesn’t know what happened, how can she find words to help her child process it? It’s terrifying, like climbing Everest without ropes.</b></p><p><br></p><p><b>She's so self-doubting that she almost always concludes that she doesn't have what it takes to parent her child. Truth be known, she looks over the cliffs of depression more times than she'd care to admit.</b></p><ul><li><b>I’m a loser mom.</b></li><li><b>I can’t self-regulate, let alone teach my child to do the same.</b></li><li><b>I can’t attach with my child...and I never will have it.</b></li><li><b>I am inept as a
